On the Necessity of being ‘Selfish’

I’ve been contemplating the word ‘selfish,’ lately. A ‘bad’ word when I grew up in my family. A label that was applied to me very strongly (to put it mildly), implicitly or explicitly, often when I tried to look out for myself, or do what I wanted, or go to where I wanted to be….

Amanda Lindhout: When One of Us Heals, All of Us Can Heal

Photo: Amanda Lindhout; File: portraitofAmandaLindhoutbyStevenCarty.jpg I stumbled upon an article in The Huffington Post about Amanda Lindhout recently, that gave me pause and made me think. In 2008 when she was 26 years old, Amanda, a Canadian and a beginner journalist, was captured in Somalia by teenaged Islamist insurgents. She was held hostage for 15…

We are Brave

photo credit: the author We, those who choose to heal, to break the patterns of our past, of our parents and their parents before them, are brave.  Don’t ever forget how brave you are. With love, A.      

Healing, One Trigger at a Time

Photo credit: author – the last of the ice on the pond, hopefully A few years ago, I was diagnosed with a dissociative disorder — Dissociative Disorder NOS (not otherwise specified) (DDNOS).  Dissociative disorders exist along a continuum, with Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly known as multiple personality disorder) at the most extreme end and DDNOS…

Dissociative Disorders: Maligned, Misunderstood and Misdiagnosed

Dissociative Disorders are, in general, not well understood by mental health professionals.  In fact, many mental health professionals either do not recognize dissociation when it’s occurring in people, and/or they dismiss it as unimportant or as a form of drama or malingering in people.  I know this because I worked as a mental health therapist…

About Me: Update

I believe it’s important for people to be as honest with themselves as they can be about their personal difficulties and struggles.  Only truth lights the way home; ignorance or wilful denial is a sure way to drift off course.  I also believe it’s important to share the stories of our personal struggles with each…

How to Make Friends

Having difficulty making friends is a painful truth not often talked about by adults.  For those of us impacted by childhood abuse and neglect, mistrust of others — whether or not we’re aware of it — can be a big problem.  It wasn’t until I was well into my forties that I learned I’d been…

Illustrated Guide to Grounding Yourself during Traumatic Reactions

Heidi Hanson is the author of a top-rate blog site about recovery from trauma where she often focuses on the physiological aspects of trauma and trauma treatment.  Her site is called “The Art of Trauma”  She’s just released an excellent post including an illustrated guide about how to try to ground yourself when you’re feeling…

This is what Healing Looks Like

I find SO much wisdom and inspiration in the following post from Danielle LaPorte.  “As we haul our psyche up the next peak of clarity….. we become unrecognizable while we’re reassembling our identities….. ugly terror and resentment in between our power moments….” I hope you find wisdom and inspiration in it, too.  Here is the…

They Will Never Notice How Broken You Are

A sad post to follow my optimistic post about happiness habits of earlier today.  A reminder that true happiness isn’t faked. “All it takes is a beautiful fake smile to hide an injured soul and they will never notice how broken you really are.” Words and poster courtesy of Rough Copy UK

Manifesting Happiness

In my lifetime, I’ve done some reading and researching, both for formal, academic and job-related reasons and for self-help.  Something I’ve learned is that when I start to read the same information in multiple sources, then I’m onto something that probably holds some sort of truth. I come from negativity, was raised in it, and…