Life is Brutiful

“Life is hard.  And life is beautiful. It’s ‘brutiful’ —  a combination of brutal and beautiful so tightly woven together that you can’t experience one without the other.” Glennon Doyle Melton, “Carry On Warrior” Advertisements

Repost: When You Reach for Help, Are You Loving or Abandoning Yourself?

  I wanted to share this fabulous article by Dr. Margaret Paul (www.innerbonding.com).  Much of her work seems to be focused on finding self-love, rather than trying to “get” someone else to love you.  In this article she talks about what is happening when we ask someone for help.  It is normal, healthy and necessary…

Quick Thoughts

Books I’m Reading:  Carry On Warrior:  Thoughts on Life Unarmed, by Glennon Doyle Melton.  I’m listening to this actually, and hearing the author reading her words is having a powerful effect.  Glennon decided to talk truthfully and openly about her difficulties in life when, time after time, she was approached by women at her church…

I Needed Words

“I needed words because unhappy families are conspiracies of silence.  The one who breaks the silence is never forgiven. He or she has to learn to forgive him or herself.” Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Can Be Normal

Boundaries are Beautiful

I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately about boundaries.  Simply put, boundaries are limits we set in place to protect ourselves and our uniqueness, that let other people know how we will and will not be treated.  (And when we don’t have good boundaries of our own, we tend to trod all over other…

What Happened and What Did Not Happen in Childhood

I couldn’t resist posting a second short video of Gabor Mate today (talking about the work of the psychiatrist, Donald Winnicott).  The following is my synopsis of it: “There are two sources of adult problems stemming from childhood – what happened and what didn’t happen.  The problems of what happened are problems relating to traumas…

The Myth of Normal

I hope you enjoy this video of Gabor Mate talking about the myth of normal.  There is an aspect of spirituality woven into his discussion. My synopsis of what he’s saying, laden heavily also with my interpretation of it, is this: “There is no idealized “normal” person.  We are on a continuum.  But our society…

Who Do You Protect?

At 50 years old I am struggling with abuse by my parents starting from young childhood and continuing into adulthood. I “kick myself” for not having dealt with this much earlier in my life — in many ways, I’ve suffered so much and I’ve lost so much time.  I kick myself in quotation marks only…

I am not the Doer

This quote from the Bhagavad Gita is helping me to find some certainty and to lay some of my doubt to rest. I am not the Doer.  I am an instrument of the Doer.   Annie.

Transplanting

Have you ever had one of those plants that looks like it’s alive, but it’s not really?  It doesn’t necessarily have any brown leaves; some of them could be yellowish when they should be bright green.  But it’s not growing, that plant.  You water it.  But you sort of want to throw it out because…

Doubt

The abuse I endured as a child has impacted me in any number of ways. “Doubt” sums up all of them. In his book, The Great Work of Your Life, Stephen Cope calls doubt the greatest inhibiting factor to a great life. I have to say, this applies to me. It took me eleven years…