What Happened and What Did Not Happen in Childhood

I couldn’t resist posting a second short video of Gabor Mate today (talking about the work of the psychiatrist, Donald Winnicott).  The following is my synopsis of it:

“There are two sources of adult problems stemming from childhood – what happened and what didn’t happen.  The problems of what happened are problems relating to traumas and abuse.  The problems of what didn’t happen are problems relating to a child not getting the emotional attunement they needed from their parents.  The second issue — children not getting exactly what they needed emotionally — can happen in perfectly normal, non-abusive families.  But it can still lead to problems for adults.  And it can be a harder problem for adults to identify, because adults typically don’t remember not getting what they didn’t know they needed as a child.”    Annie

 

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