Books I’m Reading: Carry On Warrior: Thoughts on Life Unarmed, by Glennon Doyle Melton. I’m listening to this actually, and hearing the author reading her words is having a powerful effect. Glennon decided to talk truthfully and openly about her difficulties in life when, time after time, she was approached by women at her church who commented in admiration that she seemed to have her life so together, and they felt so untogether in comparison. She felt uncomfortable with the disconnect, because her life was, decidedly, not perfect. What the women were reading from her appearances was a lie, and the lie of keeping up “appearances” keeps women from getting genuinely close to each other. When we are truthful with ourselves and with others, it encourages others to do the same. She has a checkerboard history (addictions, history of serious eating disorder, etc.) struggles with her personal stuff, her relationship with her husband and with motherhood and she writes about that in an honest, open and engaging way. Listening to her talk about how she speaks to her children, with the depth that comes from someone who’s wrestled with what it means to really love wholly and truthfully and no matter what — listening to her talk like that makes me love and forgive myself. She states she has no room for shame in her life. It’s all about love. It’s reparative.
Glennon also has a website called “Momastery” http://www.momastery.com
Why Be Happy When You Can be Normal, by Jeannette Winterson. This is a memoir of living in an abusive and dysfunctional family by an award winning British writer of literature and poetry. Insightful and well written. I recommend it.
Liars Club, by Mary Karr. I just finished reading this famous memoir by native Texan poet and writer Mary Karr. While still owning the traumas of her childhood, she writes tenderly about her parents and their idiosyncracies. She has many insights, a huge sense of humour and the book is highly entertaining.
Both Karr and Melton were hospitalized at some point for their mental health issues. I’m not sure about Winterson — I’ll have to finish her book to find out. Winterson was adopted and an only child, and is gay and her memoir may have special appeal to anyone who shares those similarities with her.
What I’m Pondering: the divine feminine and stepping into my feminine power. The power of telling one’s story in all of that. Joseph Conrad’s quote: “If you can see the path, it’s not your path.” Giving myself as long as I need to heal, in the way that I need to heal.