Quick Thoughts

What I’m Writing:  I’ve started an additional blog, “Beyond Bankruptcy: Care for the Soul.” When I started “Rebel Recovery,” I thought I would also write about my bankruptcy here.  But that writing really didn’t fit in with the processing and writing I’ve needed to do about healing the wounds of my childhood.  There is an…


Recognition:   Acknowledgement of something’s or someone’s existence. In so many ways, the journey to wholeness is all about recognition, being seen. Annie.    

The Complexities of the Aftermath of Abuse

This quote by Aspen Matis (Girl in the Woods) spoke to me.  It captures some of the twists and turns of the mind of someone who has been violated and altered by abuse.   And it underscores the role of listening to the body.  The aftermath of abuse is not simple. Annie. I asked my rapist…

The Pain Stops Here

A brittle heart will explode into a thousand shards—and often get thrown like a fragment grenade at the perceived source of its pain. But a supple heart will break open into a greater capacity to hold life’s suffering and joy in a way that allows us to say, “The pain stops here.” – Parker Palmer.


“And did you get what you wanted in this life, even so?  I did.  And what did you want?  To call myself beloved.  To feel myself beloved on the earth.”  Raymond Carver, Late Fragment

Grow Your Soul: Make Art

“I’m not kidding. The arts are….a very human way of making life more bearable. Practicing an art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow, for heaven’s sake. Sing in the shower. Dance to the radio. Tell stories. Write a poem to a friend, even a lousy poem. Do…

Fill the Universe with You

Untwist yourself little girl. Be whole. You don’t have to make yourself into that uncomfortable position anymore. No one is forcing you to do that. Anymore. And so, untwist. Relax. Be the shape of you, who you really are. Be, go where things fit around you, easily, naturally. Breathe. Be free. Be really free. Grow….