I Needed Words

“I needed words because unhappy families are conspiracies of silence.  The one who breaks the silence is never forgiven. He or she has to learn to forgive him or herself.” Jeanette Winterson, Why Be Happy When You Can Be Normal

Who Do You Protect?

At 50 years old I am struggling with abuse by my parents starting from young childhood and continuing into adulthood. I “kick myself” for not having dealt with this much earlier in my life — in many ways, I’ve suffered so much and I’ve lost so much time.  I kick myself in quotation marks only…


Have you ever had one of those plants that looks like it’s alive, but it’s not really?  It doesn’t necessarily have any brown leaves; some of them could be yellowish when they should be bright green.  But it’s not growing, that plant.  You water it.  But you sort of want to throw it out because…


The abuse I endured as a child has impacted me in any number of ways. “Doubt” sums up all of them. In his book, The Great Work of Your Life, Stephen Cope calls doubt the greatest inhibiting factor to a great life. I have to say, this applies to me. It took me eleven years…


“I tore myself away from the safe comfort of certainties through my love for truth – and truth rewarded me.”    Simone de Beauvoir