Know First Who You Are

Know first who you are, then adorn yourself accordingly.  Epicetus This is what recovery — in the big way that I define it — is really all about, isn’t it. So important, and yet so much easier said than done.  This is my journey. Sending you strength and clarity on your journey to you. xoAnnie…

We are Brave

photo credit: the author We, those who choose to heal, to break the patterns of our past, of our parents and their parents before them, are brave.  Don’t ever forget how brave you are. With love, A.      

The Battle

It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell.                  – Buddha We can do this.  We can do this, one day, one moment at a time.  Ours is a valiant battle, …

The Complexities of the Aftermath of Abuse

This quote by Aspen Matis (Girl in the Woods) spoke to me.  It captures some of the twists and turns of the mind of someone who has been violated and altered by abuse.   And it underscores the role of listening to the body.  The aftermath of abuse is not simple. Annie. I asked my rapist…

The Pain Stops Here

A brittle heart will explode into a thousand shards—and often get thrown like a fragment grenade at the perceived source of its pain. But a supple heart will break open into a greater capacity to hold life’s suffering and joy in a way that allows us to say, “The pain stops here.” – Parker Palmer.


“And did you get what you wanted in this life, even so?  I did.  And what did you want?  To call myself beloved.  To feel myself beloved on the earth.”  Raymond Carver, Late Fragment

Grow Your Soul: Make Art

“I’m not kidding. The arts are….a very human way of making life more bearable. Practicing an art, no matter how well or badly, is a way to make your soul grow, for heaven’s sake. Sing in the shower. Dance to the radio. Tell stories. Write a poem to a friend, even a lousy poem. Do…