On the Necessity of being ‘Selfish’

I’ve been contemplating the word ‘selfish,’ lately. A ‘bad’ word when I grew up in my family. A label that was applied to me very strongly (to put it mildly), implicitly or explicitly, often when I tried to look out for myself, or do what I wanted, or go to where I wanted to be….

Quick Thoughts

When I reflect on the past few weeks, I can see that I’ve been getting busy!  Here are a few of the things I’ve been up to: Joymeter: 75 Days of Summer:  I don’t think it’s a coincidence that the past three weeks have seen a marked increase in my activities.  It’s summer, of course,…

Repost: When You Reach for Help, Are You Loving or Abandoning Yourself?

  I wanted to share this fabulous article by Dr. Margaret Paul (www.innerbonding.com).  Much of her work seems to be focused on finding self-love, rather than trying to “get” someone else to love you.  In this article she talks about what is happening when we ask someone for help.  It is normal, healthy and necessary…

The Myth of Normal

I hope you enjoy this video of Gabor Mate talking about the myth of normal.  There is an aspect of spirituality woven into his discussion. My synopsis of what he’s saying, laden heavily also with my interpretation of it, is this: “There is no idealized “normal” person.  We are on a continuum.  But our society…

Our Greatest Fear

In case you haven’t had an opportunity to read this yet.  I have read that Nelson Mandela used these powerful words, written by Marianne Williamson, in his inauguration speech as President of South Africa.  May these words help you stand in your light, in your goodness and in your power.   Annie.   Our Greatest Fear…

Freedom Calls to Me, Now

[I am only at the beginning of my journey to recovering myself, claiming myself, of my journey to freedom.  Many of the shackles that were put on me in the past, by uninformed, unconscious or highly abusive parenting practices when I was a child,  have yet to be undone. But being able to write these…

2016: Embodied “Peace”

[This post is a tad long and I hope it doesn’t fall into the category of “TLDR” — “too long; didn’t read!”  I hope it’s of some benefit to anyone reading it.  I know I benefited from the writing and I’m grateful for the opportunity to post it here.  Namaste.  Annie.] With the new year…

God is With Me

Over the years, developing my concept of spirituality has been fundamental to my mental health.*  I remember my first major exploration of the topic.  I was newly separated from my husband and newly moved from a big city where I’d been living for over ten years to live in a much smaller city in a…

When the Bullied becomes a Bully (Guilty)

I was bullied, chronically, severely, by my father.  I have no doubt at all that my father also was bullied, chronically, severely.  It’s not something he spoke about that much.  But he didn’t have to.  He had an extremely disadvantaged childhood.  And his behaviour towards me speaks volumes about how he was treated in his…

Numbaholic

I’ve been reading a fantastic book recently, Mary Karr’s “Lit”.  In it, she describes her process of becoming addicted to alcohol and her process of recovery. It’s a poignant, engaging, funny read from which many who come from extremely dysfunctional families will be able to derive hope.  She also details the evolution of her spiritual…

Of Love and Money

Lately I’ve been feeling more secure about my money situation (and I’m almost scared to put that in writing — don’t want to jinx myself).  Or should I say my lack of money situation. Talking to people who have a lot of money but who choose to be very frugal has helped.  These people have…