On the Necessity of being ‘Selfish’

I’ve been contemplating the word ‘selfish,’ lately. A ‘bad’ word when I grew up in my family. A label that was applied to me very strongly (to put it mildly), implicitly or explicitly, often when I tried to look out for myself, or do what I wanted, or go to where I wanted to be….

When the Bullied becomes a Bully (Guilty)

I was bullied, chronically, severely, by my father.  I have no doubt at all that my father also was bullied, chronically, severely.  It’s not something he spoke about that much.  But he didn’t have to.  He had an extremely disadvantaged childhood.  And his behaviour towards me speaks volumes about how he was treated in his…

Of Love and Money

Lately I’ve been feeling more secure about my money situation (and I’m almost scared to put that in writing — don’t want to jinx myself).  Or should I say my lack of money situation. Talking to people who have a lot of money but who choose to be very frugal has helped.  These people have…